Have You Lost Your Will to Fight? – Debi J's Blog
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# Have You Lost Your Will to Fight?

April 1, 2013
Posted by debij

Without going into a ton of info, I got ticked off today because my sweetheart seems to have lost his will to fight. Don’t get me wrong. He’s one of those guys who does everything he can to avoid conflict. In fact, if he’s knows something might, he’ll avoid it for as long as he can, even though he KNOWS that when it comes out later, it’s going to create an even bigger conflict!

It’s a lot like when I was a kid. I’d hide what I’d done wrong from my mom for as long as I could, even though I knew she’d ground me twice as long later.

Well you know what? There’s some things in life that you can do that with. Some things, no matter how bad they might seem, won’t be a matter of life or death later.

But then there are some things that are… and this one happened to be one of those…

Of course thinking about what’s going on in my personal life typically leads me to how it shows up in my business and personal life… so here it is.

The bottom line is that you’ve got one shot at living your life. All the good, bad, and not-so-great… it’s a part of your life. And as much as people think they never want to experience the not-so-great stuff… if you didn’t, how the heck would you ever recognize the great stuff?!

The question you have to start asking yourself is, do you want the great stuff bad enough to fight thru the crap? Are you ready to go after it no matter how many times you trip up, make mistakes and embarrass yourself? Are you willing to fight WITH your kids in order to fight FOR them? Will you stand up for what you believe in for your business because it matches your ethics instead of backing down because the money looks good? Will you stand up to your family members and friends who tell you you’re not smart enough or lucky enough to reach your goals?

Well if you’re not… if you’ve lost your fight… then just stop worrying about how your kids turn out and stop building your business… now. Yep, right now!

Why put your kids thru a half-attempt at discipline and instilling values if you’re gonna just let them behave however they want down the road without saying anything.

Why put all of us who are in business with you thru the trials and tribulations of getting to know you, only to have you give up and quit later and leave us all standing in the dust wondering what the hell just happened?!

Heck, why put YOU thru all the long hours, late nights, missed parties and technical headaches to build a business that you just aren’t going to fight to build when the going gets tough (and it WILL get tough at some point!).

Why put yourself thru the heartache and misery of telling yourself that you’re going to travel, retire early, take that long vacation or pay for your parents’ wedding anniversary party and that cruise they always wanted to take if you’re just going to give in and give up before you get there?

Just go away now and we’ll part friends… No harm, no foul right?

But be forewarned. When you’re done with all those questions and you’ve made the decision that you’re just not gonna fight for it anymore… that it’s not worth it… that it’s just too much effort or takes too much time… you’re gonna have a whole new set of questions pop up down the road.

Because life’s going to keep moving forward whether you’re fighting for the direction you want it to go or not. Your kids are going to grow up and be who they’re gonna be… just with a bit less guidance and fight from you. Your business is going to be gone because there’s no one there at the helm to guide it and fight for the direction it’s going.

But hey, hopefully your job will still be there so that you at least still have an income and a roof over your head…. or are you gonna stop fighting to keep that too?

It’s fine if that’s your choice. As an “adult”, you’re free to live on the street if that’s what you choose… there are those who DO make that choice.

But what happens if you’re still not liking how life turned out? What if you (still) don’t like your job or your boss? What if you’re still know making enough money to do the things in your life that you’d planned to do… or worse… what if you’re not even earning enough to make ends meet?

Then the questions will come. What if I would have fought for it just a little bit harder or a little bit longer? Would it have made a difference? Would life be better now? Would my kids be better behaved? Would they have learned the lessons that it takes hard work to build a business and that it takes drive and fight to make it to your goals? Would you have been able to build more personal relationships if you’d stuck with growing your business? Would you have money in the bank and money invested for your future or the your kids’ future?

You just don’t know. *I* don’t know. I just know that if I do nothing at all, chances are my life is going to be worse off down the road rather than better.

Only you can decide. It’s your life… your future… your family… your business… your choice. And guess what? No matter which direction you choose to go or what it is you choose to fight for… you’re the one who will have to live with the successes and/or the failures.

So… are you gonna fight for what you want… or have you lost your drive to fight?

Your turn: Are there things in your life that you’re willing to fight for stick with until the bitter end? Is there something that you fought for only to find out after you got it that it wasn’t something you wanted or it wasn’t what you expected it to be?

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Updated: May 15, 2013 at
Tags: mindset

### Comments

1. Such an insightful post, I really enjoyed it, and it should make everyone ponder how serious they are about their dreams and goals.

   Too many people just have vague ‘wishes’ that they are not truly excited about or committed to, so when push comes to shove, they just give up.

   Very sad.
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   1. Thanks Helene. Glad you liked it. And you know, I think even when we know, once a year minimum is always a good time to evaluate that what you were after is still the same now.
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