Do You Settle or Keep Moving? – Vlog Challenge Day 4

In today’s video, I talk about the fact that people naturally gravitate towards other people who are going through the same types of issues and why that’s not necessarily a good thing. You can check out the video (new computer so no shaking) 🙂 and I’ll remember to add the text below for those of you who prefer to read (or like me,  have a tough time watching videos because of your connection speeds!) LOL

I managed to mute out a small piece in the beginning because I was checking to make sure my headset was OFF mute while I was talking and managed to mute it by accident. 🙂

I’ve got a health issue that came up during the past two weeks and it finally got to the point where I had to search out an answer. It’s something I’ve never experienced and it was frustrating the heck out of me.

So as usual, I headed to Google to check out some of my favorite medical sites to see if I could find an answer. I found an article on one of the sites that also had a ton of comments… Lots of females who had experienced (or were still experiencing) the same symptoms. But as I kept reading in search of a “Hey I found out the problem!” type of comment I started realizing that it wasn’t there. What I DID find is something that I’ve noticed in business for a long time too…

A lot of people, once they find others experiencing the same types of issues they’ve been facing (even if it’s crappy), suddenly feel like they’ve found a home of sorts and they stop looking for answers. They move in with their new found friends and start sharing war stories. The problem is when they stay there and forget what they were looking to accomplish to begin with.

If you want something in your life or business to change, improve, and grow… or if you’ve run up against something new that you don’t understand or something’s not working the way you expected and you start looking for a solution, you MUST keep in mind that as you run across others having the same problems you’ve also gotta keep your focus on finding the solution!

So while I know what the answer is from many of Tiffany’s followers will be, I’m still curious to know what you do in these situations. Have you occasionally found yourself staying too long at the “pity party”? Have you found yourself getting comfortable with NOT moving forward or fixing something because you had found a person or group who was really great at helping you justify your excuses as to why it wasn’t working right for you?

I know I’ve done both, which is exactly why it was so easy to recognize the symptoms when I was looking for an answer!

Thankfully, even with the occasional settling I’ve done, I’m more often than not the one who moves away from these types of people quickly. Even in my job as a trucker, my boyfriend and I stay away from the truck stops as much as possible. We figured out years ago that while the story may talk about a different highway, a different DOT officer, or a different shipper or receiver, the story is always the same. It’s the same whining… just on a different day and it drives me nuts!

So this was just a reminder for you, and for myself, that in order to reach your goals you’ve gotta stop settling and keep moving yourself forward… no matter how comfortable it might be when you find a group of people who are going thru what you are.

I’d love to hear if you’ve ever experienced this and what happened to make you realize that it was time to move on and get yourself back on track.

Until then….